Instead of a power-over approach, “You will do this now”, the use of questioning provides a power-with dynamic. Questioning is a powerful tool that educators use in the classroom to help drive thinking and modify behavior. Even our school-age children need the visual reminder of modeling from time to time, but especially when there’s a new toy or new storage piece. We are teaching them the skill of tidying up. When we tidy side-by-side with young children day after day, they mimic our movements and our pace. ![]() That’s where we come in as their coach.Īt times we assume our kids can do what we say, “Pick up your trucks and put them away.” However m ost children are visual learners and learn from modeling, so just telling them what to do isn’t enough for them to really understand what we want them to do. Just because your child is physically able to move a toy, does not mean they have the cognitive ability to do the mental planning, prioritizing and focusing it takes to fully tidy up a collection of toys. Many times children don’t pick up because they don’t have the skills. I teach my entire toy method in my online class, Streamline the Toys, but today I’ll share just a few tips on how I got my kids to pick up their toys without the tears, tantrums or drama. ![]() And I have resigned as the family’s full-time toy tidier.īut it wasn’t until I simplified our home and started implementing techniques that I used as a classroom teacher that things really clicked in my home when it came to toys. Now my 3 and 7 year old are able to pick up their toys without the tears (most days). When my oldest daughter was a toddler it felt like a constant tug-o-war to get her to pick up. Why won’t my kids pick up when I ask them?.How do I get my child to take care of their things?.Maybe you’ve found yourself asking these questions… The time it takes to pick up dozens of toys is one thing, but you also worry about your child’s ability to take responsibility for their stuff. Afterwards you of resent the fact that you’re the only one picking up toys, and no one else seems to care. Other times you forgo the “life lesson” and just pick up the damn toys yourself because it’s easier. (Which is met by blank stares, whining or someone asking for a snack.) ![]() Other times you have a Zen moment and deliver a lesson to your child about the value of caring for one’s things, and you wax poetic about how fortunate they are to have so many toys. Simple requests turn to bribes or threats, and maybe there’s even a tiny bit of yelling involved. Trying to get your kids to pick up their toys can be frustrating and even infuriating at times.
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